Getting Serious about Anal

A nearly raucous IM chat with Vince this afternoon about threesomes, hot tubs, virgins, and dumb girls with big tits got me looking at the Craig's List Casual Encounters this evening. One poster wondered, "So, I am curious. What is it about anal sex that guys like so much? I KNOW what women like about it!"

A fair question. I'm not a big fan, but, intellectually, I thought it important enough to consider and respond. I sent the poster the following hypothesis / dirty email. If we are kin, you should probably stop reading now.

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I can think of a number of appealing things about anal, although I've only done it twice, long ago, with one girlfriend.

One thing is the taboo of it all. Many people are grossed out or freaked out by it; it's so bad, it must be good.

Also, just like doggy-style, there's a particularly awesome sensation that comes from the front of my hips pounding your butt. The way the curve of your butt cradles into my thighs and waist with me deep inside is pretty great. Your glutes against my thighs (oooh yeah!). It's kind of hard to describe, but I think the feeling comes from the simultaneous contact that can run all the way from the back of your knees up to your hips - and even to your shoulders if I bend over and grasp you tight. Lots of intimate skin contact.

I read some guy describe the difference between vaginal and anal sex as the difference between masturbating with my whole hand all around my whole shaft as compared to just my thumb and forefinger wrapped tightly around just the base of my cock. Part of the appeal is that it's a different sort of feeling. Not better, and not worse, just different, and different is good.

Another part of it, I think, is that guys can relate to it too. I can stick a dildo or a carrot or a finger or a tampon or anal beads up my ass and know that I am experiencing pretty much what any person - man or woman - would feel. If I sit on a realistic dildo, I can be pretty sure that it hurts the same and pleasures the same as for you with my dick in your butt. I guess the difference is in the reach around. HA!

One thing I read somewhere was that in studying anal sex statistics among women, the only thing they could find that correlated with anal sex was education. They found that the more schooling a woman had the more likely she was to have tried anal. They didn't talk about why that might be, they only highlighted the connection.

The last reason I can think of relates back to the pain issue. Hearing you gasp, seeing you grit your teeth, feeling you fight it just a little has a certain turn on to it. The same way you like to see me writhe and wince when you dig your nails into my back. It's not trying to hurt the other person, but delivering a little pain displays a little power and control, and that can be hot.

Well, that's one stranger's take on anal. I would sure be interested to hear why you enjoy it.

Jonathan
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I'll let you know if she responds.

I've often thought that I might enjoy writing porn. I mentioned earlier this evening that reading Craig's List was text porn - Zork style. I'm a words guy, and I like it like that.

Jonathan 5/24/2006 10:17:00 PM